What's wrong with letting same-sex
couples legally "marry?"
There are two key reasons why the legal
rights, benefits, and responsibilities
of civil marriage should not be
extended to same-sex couples.
The first is that homosexual
relationships are not marriage. That
is, they simply do not fit the minimum
necessary condition for a marriage to
exist--namely, the union of a man and a
woman.
The second is that homosexual
relationships are harmful. Not only do
they not provide the same benefits to
society as heterosexual marriages, but
their consequences are far more
negative than positive.
Either argument, standing alone, is
sufficient to reject the claim that
same-sex unions should be granted the
legal status of marriage.
Let's look at the first argument. Isn't
marriage whatever the law says it is?
No. Marriage is not a creation of the
law. Marriage is a fundamental human
institution that predates the law and
the Constitution. At its heart, it is
an anthropological and sociological
reality, not a legal one. Laws relating
to marriage merely recognize and
regulate an institution that already
exists.
But isn't marriage just a way of
recognizing people who love each other
and want to spend their lives together?
If love and companionship were
sufficient to define marriage, then
there would be no reason to deny
"marriage" to unions of a child and an
adult, or an adult child and his or her
aging parent, or to roommates who have
no sexual relationship, or to groups
rather than couples. Love and
companionship are usually considered
integral to marriage in our culture,
but they are not sufficient to define
it as an institution.
All right--but if you add a
sexual relationship to love and
companionship, isn't that what most
people would consider "marriage?"
It's getting closer but is still not
sufficient to define marriage.
In a ruling handed down June 26, 2003,
the U. S. Supreme Court declared in
Lawrence v. Texas that sodomy
laws (and any other laws restricting
private sexual conduct between
consenting adults) are
unconstitutional. Some observers have
suggested that this dec-ision paves the
way for same-sex "marriage." But in an
ironic way, the Court's rulings that
sex need not be (legally) confined to
marriage undermine any argument that
sex alone is a defining characteristic
of marriage. Something more must be
required.
So--what IS marriage, then?
Anthropologist Kingsley Davis has said,
"The unique trait of what is commonly
called marriage is social recognition
and approval ... of a couple's engaging
in sexual intercourse and bearing and
rearing children." Marriage scholar
Maggie Gallagher says that "marriage
across societies is a public sexual
union that creates kinship obligations
and sharing of resources between men,
women, and the children their sexual
union may produce."
Canadian scholar Margaret A. Somerville
says, "Through marriage our society
marks out the relationship of two
people who will together transmit human
life to the next generation and nurture
and protect that life."
Another Canadian scholar, Paul
Nathanson (who is himself a
homosexual), has said, "Because
heterosexuality is directly related to
both reproduction and survival, ...
every human societ[y] has had to
promote it actively . ...
Heterosexuality is always
fostered by a cultural norm"
that limits marriage to unions of men
and women. He adds that people "are
wrong in assuming that any society can
do without it." [emphasis in original]
Are you saying that married couples who
don't have children (whether by choice,
or because of infertility or age)
aren't really married? If we deny
marriage to same-sex couples because
they can't reproduce, why not deny it
to those couples, too?
A couple that doesn't want children
when they marry might change
their minds. Birth control might fail
for a couple that uses it. A couple
that appears to be infertile may get a
surprise and conceive a child. The
marital commitment may deter an older
man from conceiving children with a
younger woman outside of marriage. Even
a very elderly couple is of the
structural type (i.e., a man and a
woman) that could theoretically produce
children (or could have in the past).
And the sexual union of all such
couples is of the same type as
that which reproduces the human race,
even if it does not have that effect in
particular cases.
Admittedly, society's interest in
marriages that do not produce children
is less than its interest in marriages
that result in the reproduction of the
species. However, we still recognize
childless marriages because it would be
an invasion of a heterosexual couple's
privacy to require that they prove
their intent or ability to bear
children.
There is no reason, though, to extend
"marriage" to same-sex couples, which
are of a structural type (two men or
two women) that is incapable--ever,
under any circumstances, regardless of
age, health, or intent--of producing
babies naturally. In fact, they are
incapable of even engaging in the type
of sexual act that results in natural
reproduction. And it takes no invasion
of privacy or drawing of arbitrary
upper age boundaries to determine that.
Another way to view the relationship of
marriage to reproduction is to turn the
question around. Instead of asking
whether actual reproduction is
essential to marriage, ask this: If
marriage never had
anything to do with
reproduction, would there be any reason
for the government to be involved in
regulating or rewarding it? Would we
even tolerate the government
intervening in such an intimate
relationship, any more than if
government defined the terms of who may
be your "best friend?" The answer is
undoubtedly "no"--which reinforces the
conclusion that reproduction is a
central (even if not obligatory) part
of the social significance of marriage.
Indeed, the facts that a child cannot
reproduce, that close relatives cannot
reproduce without risk, and that it
only takes one man and one woman to
reproduce, are among the reasons why
people are barred from marrying a
child, a close blood relative, or a
person who is already married. Concerns
about reproduction are central to those
restrictions on one's choice of
marriage partner--just as they are
central to the restriction against
"marrying" a person of the same sex.
But people can also reproduce
without getting married. So what
is the purpose of marriage?
The mere biological conception and
birth of children are not sufficient to
ensure the reproduction of a healthy,
successful society. Paul Nathanson, the
homosexual scholar cited above, says
that there are at least five functions
that marriage serves--things that every
culture must do in order to
survive and thrive. They are:
· Foster the bonding
between men and women
· Foster the birth and
rearing of children
· Foster the bonding
between men and children
· Foster some form of
healthy masculine identity
· Foster the
transformation of adolescents into
sexually responsible adults
Maggie Gallagher puts it more simply,
saying that "children need mothers and
fathers" and "marriage is the most
practical way to get them for
children."
But why should homosexuals be denied
the right to marry like anyone else?
The fundamental "right to marry" is a
right that rests with
individuals, not with
couples. Homosexual
individuals already have exactly
the same "right" to marry as anyone
else. Marriage license applications do
not inquire as to a person's "sexual
orientation."
Many people who now identify themselves
as homosexual have previously been in
legal (opposite-sex) marriages. On the
other hand, many people who previously
had homosexual relationships have now
renounced that behavior and married
persons of the opposite sex. If we
define a "homosexual" as anyone who has
ever experienced homosexual
attractions, then both of these
scenarios represent "homosexual"
individuals who have exercised their
right to be legally married.
However, while every individual person
is free to get married, no
person, whether heterosexual or
homosexual, has ever had a legal right
to marry simply any willing partner.
Every person, whether heterosexual or
homosexual, is subject to legal
restrictions as to whom they may marry.
To be specific, every person,
regardless of sexual preference, is
legally barred from marrying a child, a
close blood relative, a person who is
already married, or a person of the
same sex. There is no discrimination
here, nor does such a policy deny
anyone the "equal protection of the
laws" (as guaranteed by the
Constitution), since these restrictions
apply equally to every individual.
Some people may wish to do away with
one or more of these longstanding
restrictions upon one's choice of
marital partner. However, the fact that
a tiny but vocal minority of Americans
desire to have someone of the same sex
as a partner does not mean that they
have a "right" to do so, any more than
the desires of other tiny (but less
vocal) minorities of Americans give
them a "right" to choose a child, their
own brother or sister, or a group of
two or more as their marital partners.
Isn't prohibiting homosexual "marriage"
just as discriminatory as prohibiting
interracial marriage, like some states
used to do?
This analogy is not valid at all.
Bridging the divide of the sexes by
uniting men and women is both a worthy
goal and a part of the fundamental
purpose of marriage, common to all
human civilizations.
Laws against interracial marriage, on
the other hand, served only the purpose
of preserving a social system of racial
segregation. This was both an unworthy
goal and one utterly irrelevant to the
fundamental nature of marriage.
Allowing a black woman to marry a white
man does not change the definition of
marriage, which requires one man and
one woman. Allowing two men or two
women to marry would change that
fundamental definition. Banning the
"marriage" of same-sex couples is
therefore essential to preserve the
nature and purpose of marriage itself.
Hasn't the nature of marriage already
changed dramatically in the last few
generations? In defending "traditional
marriage," aren't you defending
something that no longer exists?
It's true that American society's
concept of marriage has changed,
especially over the last fifty years.
But not all change is positive, and our
experiences in that regard may be
instructive. Consider some of the
recent changes to the institution of
marriage--and their consequences:
· The divorce
revolution has undermined the concept
that marriage is a life-long
commitment. As a result, there's been
an epidemic of broken homes and broken
families, and the consequences have
been overwhelmingly negative.
· The sexual revolution
has undermined the concept that sexual
relations should be confined to
marriage. As a result, there's been an
epidemic of cohabitation, sexually
transmitted diseases, abortions, and
broken hearts, and the consequences
have been overwhelmingly negative.
· The concept that
childbearing should be confined to
marriage has been undermined. As a
result, there's been an epidemic of
out-of-wedlock births, single
parenthood, and fatherless children,
and the consequences have been
overwhelmingly negative.
· The pornography
revolution, particularly with the
advent of the Internet, has undermined
the concept that a man's sexual desires
should be directed toward his wife. As
a result, there's been an epidemic of
broken relationships, abused wives, and
sex crimes, and the consequences have
been overwhelmingly negative.
And now there is social and political
pressure to redefine what constitutes
marriage itself. What grounds does
anyone have for thinking that the
consequences of that radical social
revolution, unprecedented in human
history, would be any more positive
than the consequences of the much less
sweeping changes already described?
Why does "defending marriage" and
"defending the family" require opposing
same-sex unions? How does a homosexual
union do any harm to someone else's
heterosexual marriage?
It may come as a surprise to many
people, but homosexual unions often
have a more direct impact on
heterosexual marriages than one would
think. For example, the Boston
Globe reported June 29, 2003, that
"nearly 40 percent" of the 5,700
homosexual couples who have entered
into "civil unions" in Vermont "have
had a previous heterosexual marriage."
Of course, it could be argued that many
of those marriages may have ended long
before a spouse found their current
homosexual partner. And some may assume
that no opposite-sex spouse would
want to remain married to
someone with same-sex attractions.
Nevertheless, the popular myth that a
homosexual orientation is fixed at
birth and unchangeable may have blinded
us to the fact that many supposed
"homosexuals" have, in fact, had
perfectly functional heterosexual
marriages. And as Globe
columnist Jeff Jacoby points out, "In
another time or another state, some of
those marriages might have worked out.
The old stigmas, the universal
standards that were so important to
family stability, might have given them
a fighting chance. Without them, they
were left exposed and vulnerable."
But isn't the number of homosexuals too
small for same-sex unions to have much
impact on other people's marriages?
It's probably true that the percentage
of marriages that fail because of the
desire of one spouse to pursue a
homosexual relationship will always be
fairly small.
The most significant impact of legally
recognizing same-sex unions would be
more indirect. Expanding the definition
of what "marriage" is to include
relationships of a homosexual nature
would inevitably, in the long run,
change people's concept of what
marriage is, what it requires, and what
one should expect from it. These
changes in the popular understanding of
marriage would, in turn, change
people's behavior both before and
during marriage.
How would allowing same-sex couples to
marry change society's concept of
marriage?
For one thing, it would reinforce many
of the negative changes described
above. As an example, marriage will
open wide the door to homosexual
adoption, which will simply lead to
more children suffering the negative
consequences of growing up without both
a mother and a father.
Among homosexual men in particular,
casual sex, rather than committed
relationships, is the rule and not the
exception. And even when they do enter
into a more committed relationship, it
is usually of relatively short
duration. For example, a study of
homosexual men in the Netherlands (the
first country in the world to legalize
"marriage" for same-sex couples),
published in the journal AIDS in
2003, found that the average length of
"steady partnerships" was not more than
2 < years (Maria Xiridou et al., in
AIDS 2003, 17:1029-1038).
In addition, studies have shown that
even homosexual men who are in
"committed" relationships are not
sexually faithful to each other. While
infidelity among heterosexuals is much
too common, it does not begin to
compare to the rates among homosexual
men. The 1994 National Health and
Social Life Survey, which remains the
most comprehensive study of Americans'
sexual practices ever undertaken, found
that 75 percent of married men and 90
percent of married women had been
sexually faithful to their spouse. On
the other hand, a major study of
homosexual men in "committed"
relationships found that only seven out
of 156 had been sexually faithful, or
4.5 percent. The Dutch study cited
above found that even homosexual men in
"steady partnerships" had an average of
eight "casual" sex partners per year.
So if same-sex relationships are
legally recognized as "marriage," the
idea of marriage as a sexually
exclusive and faithful relationship
will be dealt a serious blow. Adding
monogamy and faithfulness to the other
pillars of marriage that have already
fallen will have overwhelmingly
negative consequences for Americans'
physical and mental health.
If you want people to be faithful and
monogamous, shouldn't you grant
same-sex couples the right to marry in
order to encourage that?
Some have argued that marriage will
change the behavior of homosexuals, but
it is far more plausible that the
behavior of homosexuals will change
people's idea of marriage, further
undermining the concepts that marriage
is a lifelong commitment and that sex
should be confined to marriage.
The entire "gay liberation" movement
has been but a part of the larger
sexual liberation movement whose
fundamental tenet is that anybody
should be able to have sex with anybody
they want any time they want. To
suggest that the crowning achievement
of that pro-homosexual
movement--obtaining society's ultimate
stamp of approval through civil
marriage--is suddenly going to result
in these "liberated" homosexuals
settling down into faithful,
monogamous, childrearing is foolishly
naive.
Don't homosexuals need marriage rights
so that they will be able to visit
their partners in the hospital?
The idea that homosexuals are routinely
denied the right to visit their
partners in the hospital is nonsense.
When this issue was raised during
debate over the Defense of Marriage Act
in 1996, the Family Research Council
did an informal survey of nine
hospitals in four states and the
District of Columbia. None of the
administrators surveyed could recall a
single case in which a visitor was
barred because of their homosexuality,
and they were incredulous that this
would even be considered an issue.
Except when a doctor limits visitation
for medical reasons, final authority
over who may visit an adult patient
rests with that patient. This is and
should be the case regardless of the
sexual orientation or marital status of
the patient or the visitor.
The only situation in which there would
be a possibility that the blood
relatives of a patient might attempt to
exclude the patient's homosexual
partner is if the patient is unable to
express his or her wishes due to
unconsciousness or mental incapacity.
Homosexual partners concerned about
this (remote) possibility can
effectively preclude it by granting to
one another a health care proxy (the
legal right to make medical decisions
for the patient) and a power of
attorney (the right to make all legal
decisions for another person). Marriage
is not necessary for this. It is
inconceivable that a hospital would
exclude someone who holds the health
care proxy and power of attorney for a
patient from visiting that patient,
except for medical reasons.
The hypothetical "hospital visitation
hardship" is nothing but an emotional
smokescreen to distract people from the
more serious implications of radically
redefining marriage.
Don't homosexuals need the right to
marry each other in order to ensure
that they will be able to leave their
estates to their partner when they die?
As with the hospital visitation issue,
the concern over inheritance rights is
something that simply does not require
marriage to resolve it. Nothing in
current law prevents homosexual
partners from being joint owners of
property such as a home or a car, in
which case the survivor would
automatically become the owner if the
partner dies.
An individual may leave the remainder
of his estate to whomever he
wishes--again, without regard to sexual
orientation or marital status--simply
by writing a will. As with the hospital
visitation issue, blood relatives would
only be able to overrule the surviving
homosexual partner in the event that
the deceased had failed to record his
wishes in a common, inexpensive legal
document. Changing the definition of a
fundamental social institution like
marriage is a rather extreme way of
addressing this issue. Preparing a will
is a much simpler solution.
Don't homosexuals need marriage rights
so that they can get Social Security
survivor benefits when a partner dies?
It is ironic that activists are now
seeking Social Security survivor
benefits for homosexual partners, since
Congress originally intended them as a
way of supporting a very traditional
family structure--one in which the
husband worked to provide the family's
cash income while the wife stayed home
to keep house and raise the children.
Social Security survivor benefits were
designed to recognize the non-monetary
contribution made to a family by the
homemaking and child-rearing activities
of a wife and mother, and to ensure
that a woman and her children would not
become destitute if the husband and
father were to die.
The Supreme Court ruled in the 1970s
that such benefits must be
gender-neutral. However, they still are
largely based on the premise of a
division of roles within a couple
between a breadwinner who works to
raise money and a homemaker who stays
home to raise children.
Very few homosexual couples organize
their lives along the lines of such a
"traditional" division of labor and
roles. They are far more likely to
consist of two earners, each of whom
can be supported in old age by their
own personal Social Security pension.
Furthermore, far fewer homosexual
couples than heterosexual ones are
raising children at all, for the
obvious reason that they are incapable
of natural reproduction with each
other. This, too, reduces the
likelihood of a traditional division of
labor among them.
Survivor benefits for the legal
(biological or adopted) children
of homosexual parents (as opposed to
their partners) are already available
under current law, so "marriage" rights
for homosexual couples are unnecessary
to protect the interests of these
children themselves.
Don't some scholars claim that some
cultures have recognized
same-sex unions?
A few pro-homosexual writers, such as
William N. Eskridge, Jr. (author of a
1996 book called The Case for
Same-Sex Marriage), have asserted
this. They support this claim by citing
evidence, mostly from obscure,
primitive tribes, suggesting some
tolerance of gender non-conformity or
even homosexual relationships
(particularly between men and boys).
But the important point is that in
none of these cultures was such
behavior seen as the moral and social
equivalent of lifelong
heterosexual marriage, which is what
today's pro-homosexual activists are
demanding.
Even if "marriage" itself is uniquely
heterosexual, doesn't fairness require
that the legal and financial benefits
of marriage be granted to same-sex
couples--perhaps through "civil unions"
or "domestic partnerships?"
No. The legal and financial benefits of
marriage are not an entitlement to be
distributed equally to all (if they
were, single people would have as much
reason to consider them
"discriminatory" as same-sex couples).
Society grants benefits to marriage
because marriage has benefits for
society--including, but not limited to,
the reproduction of the species in
households with the optimal household
structure (i.e., the presence of both a
mother and a father).
Homosexual relationships, on the other
hand, have no comparable benefit for
society, and in fact impose substantial
costs on society. The fact that AIDS is
at least ten times more common among
men who have sex with men than among
the general population is but one
example.
How else does marriage benefit society?
As a group of thirteen leading social
scientists reported in 2002, "Marriage
is an important social good, associated
with an impressively broad array of
positive outcomes for children and
adults alike." Put simply, married men
and women, and their children, are
happier, healthier, and more prosperous
than people in other types of
households.
For example:
· A five-year study
released in 1998 found that
continuously married husbands and wives
experience better emotional health and
less depression than people of any
other marital status.
· A 1990 review of
research found that husbands and wives
also have better physical health, while
the unmarried have significantly higher
annual death rates--about 50 percent
higher for women and 250 percent higher
for men.
· Rates of violent
abuse by intimate partners are four
times higher among never-married women,
and twelve times higher among divorced
and separated women, than they are
among married women. In fact, married
people are less likely to be the
victims of any type of violent crime
than are those who have divorced,
separated, or never married.
· Families headed by
married couples also have much higher
incomes and greater financial assets.
· In addition, husbands
and wives who are sexually faithful
even experience more physical pleasure
and emotional satisfaction in their
sexual relations than do any other
sexually active people.
Children raised by their married mother
and father, meanwhile, experience
lower rates of many social
problems, including:
· premarital
childbearing;
· illicit drug use;
· arrest;
· health, emotional, or
behavioral problems;
· poverty; and
· school failure or
expulsion.
These benefits are then passed on to
future generations as well, because
children raised by married parents are
themselves less likely to cohabit or to
divorce as adults.
For more information on the benefits of
marriage, see:
· Bridget Maher, "Why
Marriage Should Be Privileged in Public
Policy," Insight No. 254
(Washington, DC: Family Research
Council), April 16, 2003 (online at
http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS03D1)
· Why Marriage
Matters: Twenty-One Conclusions from
the Social Sciences (New York:
Institute for American Values, 2002);
see www.americanvalues.org
· Linda J. Waite and
Maggie Gallagher, The Case for
Marriage: Why Married People are
Happier, Healthier, and Better Off
Financially (New York:Doubleday,
2000)
Isn't it possible that allowing
homosexuals to "marry" each other would
allow them to participate in those
benefits as well?
No. The benefits of marriage do not
flow simply from the presence of two
people and government recognition of
their relationship. Instead, they flow
from the inherent complementarity of
the sexes and the power of lifelong
commitment. The first of these is
rejected outright by homosexuals, and
the second is far less common among
them.
As noted earlier, opening the gates of
"marriage" to homosexuals is far more
likely to change the attitudes and
behavior of heterosexuals for the worse
than it is to change the lifestyles of
homosexuals for the better.
Do most same-sex couples even
want to assume the
responsibilities of marriage?
There is considerable reason to doubt
that they do. A front-page article in
the New York Times (August 31,
2003) reported that in the first 2 =
months after Ontario's highest court
legalized "marriage" for same-sex
couples, fewer than 500 same-sex
Canadian couples had taken out marriage
licenses in Toronto, even though the
city has over 6,000 such couples
registered as permanent partners.
The Times reported that
"skepticism about marriage is a
recurring refrain among Canadian gay
couples," noting that "many gays
express the fear that it will undermine
their notions of who they are. They say
they want to maintain the unique
aspects of their culture and their
place at the edge of social change."
Mitchel Raphael, the editor of a
Toronto "gay" magazine, said, "I'd be
for marriage if I thought gay people
would challenge and change the
institution and not buy into the
traditional meaning of 'till death do
us part' and monogamy forever." And
Rinaldo Walcott, a sociologist at the
University of Tornoto, lamented, "Will
queers now have to live with the
heterosexual forms of guilt associated
with something called cheating?"
It appears that many homosexuals want
the right to "marry" only because
marriage constitutes society's ultimate
stamp of approval on a sexual
relationship--not because they actually
want to participate in the institution
of marriage as it has historically been
understood.
What about the argument that homosexual
relations are harmful? What do you mean
by that?
Homosexual men experience higher rates
of many diseases, including:
· Human Papillomavirus
(HPV), which causes most cases of
cervical cancer in women and anal
cancer in men
· Hepatitis A, B, and C
· Gonorrhea
· Syphilis
· "Gay Bowel Syndrome,"
a set of sexually transmitted
gastrointestinal problems such as
proctitis, proctocolitis, and enteritis
· HIV/AIDS (One
Canadian study found that as a result
of HIV alone, "life expectancy for gay
and bisexual men is eight to twenty
years less than for all men.")
Lesbian women, meanwhile, have a higher
prevalence of:
· Bacterial vaginosis
· Hepatitis C
· HIV risk behaviors
· Cancer risk factors
such as smoking, alcohol use, poor
diet, and being overweight
Why do homosexuals have such high rates
of sexually transmitted diseases?
Much of the reason for high rates of
sexually transmitted diseases among
homosexuals lies in their higher rates
of promiscuous sexual behavior. For
example, the 2003 Dutch study mentioned
earlier found that even homosexual men
who had a "steady partner" also had an
average of eight "casual" sexual
partners per year (those without a
"steady partner" had an average of 22
"casual" ones). Lesbians, meanwhile,
were found by one study to have twice
as many lifetime male sexual
partners as women in the heterosexual
control group.
Do homosexuals have more mental health
problems as well?
Yes. Various research studies have
found that homosexuals have higher
rates of:
· Alcohol abuse
· Drug abuse
· Nicotine dependence
· Depression
· Suicide
Isn't it possible that these problems
result from society's "discrimination"
against homosexuals?
This is the argument usually put
forward by pro-homosexual activists.
However, there is a simple way to test
this hypothesis. If "discrimination"
were the cause of homosexuals' mental
health problems, then one would expect
those problems to be much less common
in cities or countries, like San
Francisco or the Netherlands, where
homosexuality has achieved the highest
levels of acceptance.
In fact, the opposite is the case. In
places where homosexuality is widely
accepted, the physical and mental
health problems of homosexuals are
greater, not less. This suggests that
the real problem lies in the homosexual
lifestyle itself, not in society's
response to it. In fact, it suggests
that increasing the level of social
support for homosexual behavior
(by, for instance, allowing same-sex
couple to "marry") would only increase
these problems, not reduce them.
Do homosexuals have higher rates of
domestic violence?
Yes. It's notable that so-called "hate
crimes" directed at homosexuals, such
as the brutal murder of Wyoming college
student Matthew Shepard in 1998, are
often touted as a measure of society's
supposed hostility to homosexuals. Yet
even when it comes to violence,
homosexuals are far more likely to be
victimized by each other than by an
"anti-gay" attacker. Government
statistics show that "intimate partner
violence" between people of the same
sex is approximately twenty times more
common than anti-homosexual "hate
crimes."
Research also shows that men and women
in heterosexual marriages experience
lower rates of domestic violence
than people in any other living
arrangement.
Do homosexuals pose a threat to
children?
Homosexual men are far more likely to
engage in child sexual abuse than are
heterosexuals. The evidence for this
lies in the findings that:
· Almost all child
sexual abuse is committed by men; and
· Less than three
percent of American men identify
themselves as homosexual; yet
· Nearly a third of all
cases of child sexual abuse are
homosexual in nature (that is, they
involve men molesting boys). This is a
rate of homosexual child abuse about
ten times higher than one would expect
based on the first two facts.
These figures are essentially
undisputed. However, pro-homosexual
activists seek to explain them away by
claiming that men who molest boys are
not usually homosexual in their adult
sexual orientation. Yet a study of
convicted child molesters, published in
the Archives of Sexual Behavior,
found that "86 percent of offenders
against males described themselves as
homosexual or bisexual" (W. D.
Erickson, M.D., et al., in Archives
of Sexual Behavior 17:1, 1988).
This does not mean that all, or
even most, homosexual men are child
molesters--but it does prove that
homosexuality is a significant risk
factor for this horrible crime.
But haven't studies shown that children
raised by homosexual parents are no
different from other children?
No. This claim is often put forward,
even by professional organizations. The
truth is that most research on
"homosexual parents" thus far has been
marred by serious methodological
problems. However, even pro-homosexual
sociologists Judith Stacey and Timothy
Biblarz report that the actual data
from key studies show the "no
differences" claim to be false.
Surveying the research (primarily
regarding lesbians) in an American
Sociological Review article in
2001, they found that:
· Children of lesbians
are less likely to conform to
traditional gender norms.
· Children of lesbians
are more likely to engage in homosexual
behavior.
· Daughters of lesbians
are "more sexually adventurous and less
chaste."
· Lesbian "co-parent
relationships" are more likely to end
than heterosexual ones.
A 1996 study by an Australian
sociologist compared children raised by
heterosexual married couples,
heterosexual cohabiting couples, and
homosexual cohabiting couples. It found
that the children of heterosexual
married couples did the best, and
children of homosexual couples the
worst, in nine of the thirteen academic
and social categories measured.
What do these consequences of
homosexual behavior have to do with
marriage?
Since homosexual behavior is directly
associated with higher rates of
promiscuity, physical disease, mental
illness, substance abuse, child sexual
abuse, and domestic violence, there is
no reason to reward such behavior by
granting it society's ultimate
affirmation--the status of civil
marriage--or any of the benefits of
marriage.
For more information on the harmful
consequences of homosexual behavior,
see the following publications by the
Family Research Council's Senior Fellow
for Marriage and Family Studies, Dr.
Timothy J. Dailey:
· Dark Obsession:
The Tragedy and Threat of the
Homosexual Lifestyle (Nashville:
Broadman and Holman, 2003); order
online at: http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=BK03F01
· "Homosexuality and
Child Sexual Abuse," Insight No.
247 (Washington, D.C.: Family Research
Council), May 17, 2002 (online at: http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS02E3)
· "The Negative Health
Effects of Homosexuality,"
Insight No. 232 (Washington,
D.C.: Family Research Council), March
6, 2001 (online at: http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS01B1)
· "Homosexual
Parenting: Placing Children at Risk,"
Insight No. 238 (Washington:
Family Research Council) November 1,
2001 (online at: http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS01J3)
Do the American people want to see
"marriages" between same-sex couples
recognized by law?
No--and in the wake of the June 2003
court decisions to legalize such
"marriages" in the Canadian province of
Ontario and to legalize homosexual
sodomy in the United States, the
nation's opposition to such a radical
social experiment has actually grown.
Five separate national opinion polls
taken between June 24 and July 27, 2003
showed opponents of civil "marriage"
for same-sex couples outnumbering
supporters by not less than fifteen
percentage points in every poll. The
wording of poll questions can make a
significant difference, and in this
case, the poll with the most
straightforward language (a
Harris/CNN/Time poll asking "Do you
think marriages between homosexual men
or homosexual women should be
recognized as legal by the law?")
resulted in the strongest opposition,
with 60 percent saying "No" and only 33
percent saying "Yes."
Even where pollsters drop the word
"marriage" itself and use one of the
euphemisms to describe a counterfeit
institution parallel to marriage, we
see a decline in public support for the
homosexual agenda. The Gallup Poll, for
instance, has asked, "Would you favor
or oppose a law that would allow
homosexual couples to legally form
civil unions, giving them some of the
legal rights of married couples?"
This question itself is misleading, in
that it downplays the legal impact of
"civil unions." Vermont, the only U. S.
state to adopt "civil unions" (under
coercion of a state court), actually
gives all "of the legal rights
of married couples" available under
state law to people in a same-sex
"civil union"--not just "some." But
despite this distortion, a
49-percent-to-49-percent split on this
question in May 2003 had changed to
opposition by a margin of 58 percent to
37 percent when the Washington
Post asked the identical question
in August 2003.
Even the percentage of Americans
willing to declare that "homosexual
relations between consenting adults"
(never mind homosexual civil
"marriage") "should be legal" dropped
from 60 percent to only 48 percent
between May and July of 2003. The
biggest drop in support, a stunning 23
percentage points (from 58 percent to
35 percent), came among African
Americans--despite the rhetoric of
pro-homosexual activists who seek to
frame the issues of "gay rights" and
same-sex unions as a matter of "civil
rights."
Is it necessary to amend the U. S.
Constitution to prevent legal
recognition of civil "marriage" for
same-sex couples?
No state legislature has even come
close to allowing same-sex unions to be
recognized as civil marriage. However,
knowing that public opinion is firmly
against them, pro-homosexual activists
have now turned to the courts in an
effort to get what they cannot achieve
through the democratic process. Several
states have heard lawsuits from
same-sex couples demanding that they be
granted marriage licenses, and at this
writing there is a very real
possibility that in the near future one
or more state courts may order legal
recognition of a same-sex civil
"marriage."
If that happens, it is highly likely
that some same-sex couples who obtain a
civil "marriage" in that state will
seek to have it recognized in other
states. The 1996 Defense of Marriage
Act (DOMA), which was passed by an
overwhelming bipartisan majority in
Congress and signed into law by
President Clinton, declares that states
do not have to recognize same-sex civil
"marriages" contracted in other states.
However, pro-homosexual activists would
undoubtedly go to federal court to seek
to have DOMA declared unconstitutional.
Such a legal challenge to DOMA
ought to fail. But given the U.
S. Supreme Court's recent history of
judicial activism on the subject of
homosexuality, in defiance of the
history and traditions of the country
and even of the Court's own prior
decisions, many have concluded that it
would unsafe to trust the Court on this
issue.
Amending the Constitution now appears
to be the only way to achieve two
indispensable goals:
· preserve a uniform
national standard for something so
fundamental to our civilization as the
definition of marriage; and
· prevent the
imposition of same-sex civil "marriage"
or marital benefits through acts of
undemocratic judicial tyranny. C